treat every feeling as a friend

When you feel anxiety it means you are afraid of something. Maybe you are afraid you will make someone angry or they will not love you anymore. This comes from childhood conflicts you might have had with your parents and siblings. 

These feelings are natural, they are here to protect you. If you didn't feel anxious about meeting a new person you might be easier to manipulate.

At the same time sometimes we might feel anxious even when no danger is actually happening. Maybe we want to do something we never did before and we are worried about the reaction of others. 

Maybe we want to tell our friends or family something we never told them and so we feel scared how will they react. 

Just feel your body at moments like this, notice your breathing got shorter, notice you are shaking, notice your vision is focused on one spot, these are all just physical manifestation of the familiar feeling of anxiety. 

Don't try to fight it, don't try to change anything about it. Chances are people around you go through feelings of anxiety too and the best thing you can do for them is to show them that it is manageable to get through this feeling and come out stronger at the other side. 

Our body likes balance and so no extreme feeling stays forever: be it anger, joy, happiness or sadness they all have their timeline of being in low intensity then growing and then decreasing again. 

Don't let anxiety control your life, it will always come no matter how far you try to escape. Even if you hide in your room forever or leave into a forest there will come moments of anixety, moments of joy. 

Just be with yourself whatever happens. Just be there no matter what you are feeling. Other people can leave you but until you don't leave yourself it is alright. 

Listen to your breathing, listen to your thoughts or silence. Sometimes the anxiety is so overwhelming it shuts down your thoughts. Your brain is quiet or it is just overwhelmed with what body is sensing so it rambles meaningless words so focus on your breathing and body sensations to let it go.